Monday, August 13, 2007

How to love your wife, part new

Might be a decent idea to take a good picture of her with you to work. It's always bothered me at work when I see pictures of a man's children, but not his wife, around his desk.

Now certainly there are reasons at times for there to be no picture of his wife. Too many of my colleagues are divorced. That said, I must wonder if part of the reason they're divorced is that they spent too much time not thinking about their wives. I wonder if my married colleagues are doing their marriages a disservice--or showing a lack of respect for their wives--by featuring everything precious to them (children, cars, power tools) in their cubicles except for that which is most precious.

So use your best camera and take a few pictures of your best girl. Take some of the best ones and take them to work. It might be worth your time.

7 comments:

Brent said...

...or showing a lack of respect for their wives--by featuring everything precious to them (children, cars, power tools) in their cubicles except for that which is most precious.

After reading this comment I looked at my pictures and realized that I don't have a picture of her on my desk, nor in my wallet...I just have my kids. I mean no disrespect of my wife with this, it just happened.

Perhaps it is because either she, or I, are normally behind the camera when pictures are being taken. Perhaps it is because my wife doesn't have any pictues of herself that she likes...or perhaps it is some other reason.

For a brief momment, I really felt like schmuck for not having my wife's picture on my desk...and then it dawned on me...I don't need to have her picture on my desk to remind me of her...she and I us MSN to talk to eachother all dy long!

I just wanted to share my thoughts on the matter.

Johnny Roosh said...

BB: Nice post, and I agree. I am also going to get a picture of your wife for my office.

Mark said...

I have a large picture of my son over my desk in my cube. It was provided, by my wife, with a full-family picture in the corner of the frame.

When my wallet falls open, it shows the first picture of herself that she gave me.

Bike Bubba said...

My wife, Mr. Roosh? Think you might have missed my point. :^)

And certainly, Sharkbait, there could be other reasons--though I would tend to doubt that they apply for all of my colleagues that can be described this way. Certainly it's wonderful that you communicate with your spouse through the day.

But for lesser men, a picture might be a good start--and a wonderful way to let one's wife know she's still got it going for you.

Johnny Roosh said...

I don't have a picture of my wife in my office because she is my business partner.

Most clients don't need to know this, but often times they figure it out after a couple visits because they notice the resemblance of the kids pictures on her desk to those on mine.

...so I get to see her at home and in the office which is awesome for us. Many have told me they could never do this, but I guess we are lucky in this regard.

Joey said...

Totally agree with you here. I have a picture of my wife and I under my computer monitor at work. We chat back and forth while working too, but I think it's important to have something more public that others - boss, peers, other women - can see.

Hopefully one day I'll be able to hang pictures of kids too...

Anonymous said...

This is a great conversation. Thanks guys!

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