Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Parenting 101

Apparently, a prominent actor's son has told his parents that he wants to be emancipated and live like an adult, and for some odd reason, Dad has gone to the press.

Now I'm guessing that this is a scheme of getting a buzz around his name (acting gigs coming slowly for him these days), but if my 14 year old told me that, I'd sit her down and say "OK, kiddo, let's figure out how you're going to pay for your housing, food, health insurance, transportation,......". 

I'm guessing that the desire for emancipation wouldn't make it past understanding that (a) most companies don't hire 14 year olds and (b) the cost of rent.  Plus, she loves making desserts for the family.


pentamom said...

Well, that's the difference between the Perrys and the Smiths. When you raise your kids with the idea that "because we have nearly unlimited amounts of money, you can have anything you want that is not overtly dangerous," how do you then turn around and say, "No, you can't have your own place with security and people to make sure you stay safe?" You can't.

You have to be smart enough to realize that money (or other material constraints, like time or resources) needn't be the only thing controlling whether or not you say no to your kids about stuff.

I remember reading Russell Baker's childhood memoir years ago -- a good book, called "Growing Up." One thing that stuck with me was describing how he was raised by his mother and grandmother in poverty. He said hearing them say "We can't afford it" was formative -- he learned about delayed gratification, or even absent gratification. He was lamenting how affluent parents today neither have that excuse, nor the will to simply say "No" without needing the excuse. Here's a textbook example.

Bike Bubba said...

Well said. I made the silly mistake of assuming that Jaden Smith's proposed "emancipation" would also mean being emancipated from his parents paying for everything. :^)